Although you may feel like the relationship is going well your partner might be stuck in the past. Being stuck in the past makes your partner’s mind wander to any place but here and it will slowly deteriorate his love to you. So what is the root of this problem? Who is it that he is looking for in the past?
A baby mama is a term for a woman that have a child with a man outside of marriage. You may think that it is a one time mistake with her but there is a big chance that your guy is falling for her. Do not let her ruin your relationship and do not be blindsided. Here are the sneaky signs that your boyfriend is not over his baby mama:
- They are parenting a lot together
Even though they co-parent because they lead different lives, the sign that your guy is still stuck on her is that they parent this child together for an excessive amount of time. They spend a whole day or even a whole week together. You can’t even have a day with him!
- He really tries to cater to her needs
It looks like he really tries to make her happy by buying her gift or hanging out with her. Although he assure you that he already cut the ties with her, now he might be showing the Signs He is Player. He is actually falling in love with her each time you let him be with her.
- He is on her side
When you complain about her behavior or even bad mouth her for a little bit, he gets protective of her. Especially when you and his baby mama is fighting, he takes her side. This is when you know that he is more in love with her.
- He does not want you to be around her
Because he really loves his baby mama, he wants to protect her by not putting her up with her enemy, his current girlfriend. He knows that it will not be pretty if you two are together so he tries his best to make you not meet her at any cost.
- They spend a lot of trips out of town together
His excuse might be that he wants his child to be with a full family, but a trip outside of town just with her seems to odd. You need to raise your suspicion when he says this because he might show the Signs Of A Cheater Guy
- He is in contact with her a lot
Exes should stay in the past and let the present time be. But it seems that he is in constant contact with his past which is his baby mama. His baby mama is exhibiting the Signs That Your Ex Girlfriend Misses You
- He talks with her more in a conversation together
Even though you are clearly in the room, he talks with her more and does not try to let you in the conversation. Clearly, staying in this relationship will show the Signs of An Unhealthy Relationship with Boyfriend
- He gets physical with her
He shyly grabs her hand or hug her close even though you are watching. If he do this when you are around, he doesn’t even care if you get hurt. The point is that he is really stuck on her.
- He listens to her more
When she tells him to do something, he do it straight away. Meanwhile when you ask him to do something, he complains and make it seem like a big favor to ask.
- He wants privacy with her
Your boyfriend tells you to go away just to talk with her. What is it that needs to be talked about that needs this much privacy? It might be something way more personal and deep.
- He makes her his priority
Every time she ask for his help, even if it is in the middle of the night, he will come running. He will look so panicked when she is in the slightest trouble. This is because she has become his priority in his life.
More ways to know that your boyfriend is not over his baby mama
- He is more stiff with you – it looks like he is more relaxed and care free when he is with his baby mama
- He talks about how amazing she is – sounds like you are invisible and the person he should be in a relationship with is her
- He is still a big part of her family – he still goes to meet her family and he does not think that it is awkward.
- He still keep his things – there are many things that belongs to her that he can never seem to let go
- He compares you to her – what you do is never enough and she is always perfect in his mind
- She is her bestfriend – you are not even his friend and he is slowly showing the (signs a guy is breaking up with you
What to do if he is not over his baby mama
- Talk to him – ask him the real question if he is really over his past or not. Demand him to tell you the truth. Also, ask him about what makes the current relationship he have with you not satisfying.
- Listen – do not get all defensive and get into a fight. It will make the problem worse. Listen to the problem and make peace with the fact that it is over.
- Move on – no use in falling in love with someone that is not ready to love you. So what you need to do is find (ways move on) so that you can be happier.
The signs that your boyfriend is not over his baby mama is usually hidden. But now you know and you can do something about it!