Philippines dating culture is in some way similar to dating culture in another Asian countries, but in other way is also different. Their dating culture is a complicated mix of their original beliefs, religious customs, influence of the elderly, historical rules, and of eastern and western influence itself. A conservative and traditional Philippines dating rules and culture is still applied in the rural and suburban areas of the country. But the younger generation has been strongly influenced by the western culture, thus makes their dating cultures slightly shift from the traditional ones.
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1. It’s Taboo for a girl to ask a man out
In traditional Filipino culture, it’s a shame for a girl to start courting on a man. the one who ask should be the man, thus mark the beginning of the couple’s relationship. With the influence of the Western culture, younger Filipinos girls start to confess to a guy first, but it’s still uncommon thing to do. Girl in the rural and suburban area still following the old rules and customs in dating.
2. The man should be in the leading role
Almost similar with the Chinese dating etiquette, in Philippine man also plays important leading role in relationship. He will ask his girl for a date. The date itself has certain customary rule. The man will pick up the girl from her house and bring her back after the date ended. What will they do throughout the date is on the man’s hand.
3. First date is important
A couple first date is an official time to get to know each other better. Feel free to ask about his family, education, work, hobbies, likes, and dislikes. Passionate kiss is highly unlikely on this first date, although some girls might allow some light kiss on the cheek. It is also possible not to hold hands on first date. Old Filipinos customs said that it’s not so good dating someone who is liberated. Indeed, that’s the Philippines dating culture.
4. Wait for follow-up date
After the first date, you have officially start dating each other, or haven’t. The follow up date is as important as the first one. If the man contact you and ask for the second date and so on, it means he got some interest in you! But if one side or both sides don’t have further interest towards each other, then the second date and so on would never happen. It is like an indirect confirmation of rejection, given that Filipinos doesn’t said some negative issues and decisions directly.
5. Family support is important
Just like most countries in Asia, family ties in Philippines is also tight. So when it comes to dating, family support is important. Meet not only her/his atomic family, but also their distant relatives as well as grandparents, cousin, aunt, uncle, etc. Historically, Philippines old courtship involves a guys who doing service for the girl’s family. Filial son potential seems highly needed in here.
6. Be Polite
Most of Philippines women are shy and conservative. Mind your behavior when you are around them. Talk politely and leave a good impression to them. Do not say something too rude or offensive towards them.
7. Have a good sense of humor
Filipinos love to talk freely. When you go on a date, prepare some fresh jokes to entertain your partner. They love to laugh a lot, and of course would like to have a humorist partner! As long as you didn’t say somethings offensive, your date will be going very smoothly.
8. Beautify yourself
This rule apply both to men and women. Filipinos loved to see their partner pretty, handsome, fresh and clean. Dress yourself and beautify yourself every time you go on a date. Not too much, but still good to see.
9. Be a gentleman
For any men out there, never forget to say “thank you” and “please” every other time. Filipinos women are impressed by a mannered and gentle man. Offer them a seat and opening the door for them is next on step of becoming a gentleman.
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10. They have mountain pile of food
Filipinos love, love food so much. When your partner take you to meet their family, you’d be welcome with numerous kind of Filipinos food served on the table. It’s common for them to prepare a lot of food despite the small number of people possibly eating them.
11. Why not trying to cook them?
As their love for food that big, why don’t you try to learn cook some of them? Filipino culture is close with Latin and Spanish, so their menu would not far away from tocino, tapa, hotdog, rice, and coffee. If you succeed in this one, you will immediately steals the family’s heart.
12. Show your interest to their culture
If you come from a different culture, and wanted to date Filipinos, show some interest to their culture. Ask them a lot about it and mingled with the natives. Filipinos will be impressed if you want to learn and understand their culture. You can ask them to teach you their local dialect and languages, try eat their signature food, and learn some Filipino’s song.
13. Entertain her and the family
As man is the leading player in their dating culture, he has to try harder to work everything out. You can make a good impression by entertaining her and her family. Filipinos likes karaoke. So you can try to ask them singing with you, creating an enjoyable family meeting. And, never turn them down if they ask you to sing or dance.
14. Virginity is important
Just like any typical Eastern countries, virginity is still one of the thing highly valued in Philippines. The women never gives up their virginity on a date. Instead, they wait until marriage was made official. This is why dating a Filipino woman is truly worth it.
15. Religion comes first
Filipino family actually doesn’t mind if their child dating some other guy/women of a different culture. They look more to the religion rather than culture. It doesn’t matter from what culture your partner comes from, as long as we share similar belief.
16. Filipinos women love to be attached to you
To win Filipinos’ women heart, all you need is constantly sending “I love you” message to them. They loved to be pursued and needed by men. They loved to receive some random text pouring your feeling and heart to them.
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17. Win their family = win her heart
Due to her strong bond with her family, it’s important to you to have their heart as well. Follow some tips as written above such as entertain them, cook some food for them, and of course be polite to her family.
18. The “hard to get” game
Due to their shy nature and cultural traits not too said something bluntly, Filipinos women tend to play “hard to get” to their partner. They are deeply interest at heart, but act as if they don’t even care on the outside. They wish to see how hard the men fall for her and try to win her heart.
19. The long term relationship
For Filipinos, dating is not just a game you can play if you want and leave when you get bored. It is something more serious and they usually like to date for a long time. Most of relationship in Philippines did last a long time. It is different than in western culture where you can take dating as just having fun.
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20. No casual date
Casual date is also considered as just “playing” in Philippines culture. You would not see many Filipinos men and women go on casual date or on night stand date. If so, it could be counted by the fingers. This thing strongly applied in their old dating cultures.
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21. The man pays for the date
As the leading role of the date, men take care of almost all the business throughout the date from setting the date, pick the place, and of course including paying the bills. Not to say that Filipinos women are materialistic, but it is what their culture, customs, and elders taught them.
22. Online dating application
Well, this only happen in this recent culture where technology and modernity has dominated our live. Most of Philippines, both men and women, make use of dating application on their mobile phone to find a date. But you have to be cautious, since the online profile might not 100% true.
23. Be sincere
In relationships and dating, what advice could be better than be sincere? Love your partner with sincerity, and all the good things will flow naturally out of you. Sincerity is also an important foundation to build a strong love.
Those are some dating culture and customs in Philippines. They still think very highly of their conservative rules, and that’s what makes them even cuter! Indeed, that’s the Philippines dating culture. In case you ever heard, always spread love in every corner.
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