13 Ways To Get Your Ex Back When He Has A Girlfriend (How To Win Him Over)

by Michelle Devani

Are you hoping to get your ex back?

Perhaps he has a new girlfriend, but you still don’t want to give up chasing him? 

If so, this guide will probably be able to help. 

It features 13 clever ways to get your ex back, even when he has a girlfriend.

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If not, scroll down for a list of 13 ideas to win your ex back.

There’s nothing like wanting to get back with your ex. You reminisce on the great memories. You forgive them without ever speaking to them. Somehow, your heart simply years for theirs. 

Then, you realize they have a girlfriend. Your eyes narrow, and you wonder if you have a chance. Not only do you have a chance, but you’ve also got a great chance. 

How To Get Your Ex Back

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First, you need to take a deep breath. Even if your ex has a girlfriend, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t miss you. His new girlfriend has nothing on you, and you need to remember that. 

Don’t let someone else make you feel insecure. Use your confidence with these other steps to make sure that he shows up in your inbox, and in your arms. 

1. Don’t Sabotage The New Girlfriend

It can be hard to make sure that all of your pure hatred for the new girlfriend doesn’t bubble to the surface, but you’re going to have to practice some coping skills if you want to turn your ex-boyfriend into your new boyfriend. Sabotaging her only makes you look bitter, and that’s not a look that you want. Instead, ignore the fact that she exists. This is about you and him, not her. 

2. Don’t Let The New Girlfriend Bother You

Just because he jumped into a new relationship two days later doesn’t mean that he didn’t love you. It doesn’t mean that you cannot get your ex to reach out to you. In fact, if he jumped into a relationship with someone new rather quickly, it shows that he’s more likely to be interested in getting back together. 

A rebound relationship rarely lasts, and it won’t take him long to start comparing his new relationship to his old one, and you’re going to come out on top in that comparison. 

3. Make Him Jealous, But Only On Occasion

You want your ex to see that other guys are interested in you. This will help him want to get with you, which is the ultimate goal. In order for the two of you to become a couple again, he needs to turn his focus from her to getting back with you. Once he sees that other guys want you, he might feel that little green-eyed monster, which is exactly what you want. 

4. Always Look Your Best

Make sure that you always look runway-ready if he’s going to see you, or if there’s a chance that he could run into you. You want to wear something that will make him turn his head to watch you walk away. 

5. Don’t Talk To Him First

If he shows up in your inbox or texts you, it’s okay to respond. However, you don’t want to be the one texting your ex first. Men have a primal instinct to chase women. Once you make him chase you, he’ll want to be with you more. This can also give you some time to up your game so that when he does show up, and he probably will at some point, you’re ready to make your move. 

6. Focus On Yourself

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If something happens and you don’t get back together with your ex-boyfriend, you’ll be fine. If you do wind up dating your ex-boyfriend again, you will be so much better than before that he’s guaranteed to be impressed. 

Lose weight if you want. Dye your hair. Develop a new skincare routine. Work on your communication skills or mental health. Anywhere that you think you need improvement on counts, and you should work on it during this period. 

7. Use Social Media To Show Him How Awesome You Are

If he’s still your friend on Facebook, leave him there. If his new girlfriend wants to add, accept the request (her insecurities at how amazing you are can work in your favor.) Then, post pictures of you with friends, and include some with guy friends. 

Leave your status as single. Make sure that you’re smiling, and use your best angles to always look great in selfies. Other great ideas are to: 

  • Go to a sentimental location (like where your first date was) and post about it
  • Show off how you’re working towards goals, such as fitness goals
  • Showing off his favorite things, like your hair or butt, every so often won’t hurt
  • Avoid memes that are sad, depressing, about break-ups, etc. 
  • Make sure to add plenty of guy friends to show that other men are interested too

8. Give His New Relationship Some Time To Fail

Once a person is in the honeymoon stage, they are gone for a little while. This is the stage at the beginning of the relationship where everything is pure bliss. It’s the portion that lasts a few months when a girlfriend is on top of the world. 

Then, it all comes to an end, and reality kicks in. This is when relationships with a new girlfriend will falter, especially if she was just a rebound because he was in love with you. 

9. Then, Give Him Some Time To Get A Bit Nostalgic

As this happens, and a little bit more time goes on, he’ll start to forget all of the bad things. If you said anything that you deeply regret during the breakup or that could have hurt his feelings, you’ll want to wait for this to happen before trying to get back with your ex-boyfriend. This is the perfect time to make your move, even if the new girlfriend is still in the picture. She won’t be for long. 

10. Contact Him

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By now, the no-contact rule of not speaking to him for 30 days should have passed. If it hasn’t, wait a little longer to double your chances of getting back with your ex. Then, reach out to your ex. However, play it cool. You don’t want to express your undying love for him or get too sentimental. Instead, a simple “Heyyy!” and then saying you had the wrong number, your contact was saved right above someone else. 

Tell him you found something of his and want to give it back. You just want to roll the ball over to his side of the court and see if he picks it up. 

11. See What His Reaction Is

If he sees you and tells you that you look great, that shows that he misses you. He might also talk about times that you spent together or the way you used to do things. Reminisce on those good times with him. Tell him that you miss them too. 

If he has a girlfriend and you aren’t sure how he feels, you can reach out a bit by telling him that you miss talking to him all night, etc. You still need to play it cool, though. Don’t appear desperate. 

12. Become The Ungettable Girl

During your self-focus period earlier, you probably worked towards this. If there are still some areas to work on, check out this article. It tells you everything that you need to become the ungettable girl, a term that the author came up with. His article is gold, and something worth reading if you want to get back together with your ex. This guide will have him crawling back to you in ways you never thought possible. 

13. Don’t Ever Beg Them To Come Back

Not only does this make you look desperate, it is a very unattractive look. Men don’t like it when girls are constantly blowing up their phones. They don’t want insecure, begging or a girl that says that they will do anything to make them stay. Acting like this can actually backfire and push your ex-boyfriend away, killing any chance you had to get together with your ex again. Instead, you want to maintain that calm, cool composure for the entire process. If it’s hard, focus on yourself. It’s good to be busy during this step, too!

FAQs

How do you get my ex back when he has a girlfriend?

One of the best ways to get your ex back is to let your ex-boyfriend come back to you. Get him back by going no contact, but leaving your life open so he can see how amazing you’re doing. Focus on yourself, and it won’t take long for him to want a relationship with you again. 

Will my ex come back if he has a new girlfriend?

Usually, they will, unless the relationship has a reason for them to stay. One of my exes is with his rebound because she got pregnant. If he’s dating someone to get over you, you can trust that he’ll be back. Even if he’s dating someone, if he has feelings for you you can trust that he’ll come to you eventually. 

How do I know if my ex still loves me?

They stay in touch with people that are close to you after the breakup, even if they don’t have a reason to. If you want your ex-boyfriend back, and he touches you, touch him back. That’s a sure-fire sign he still has feelings for you. He’ll be more enthusiastic as well.

How do you tell if he's not over you?

When you’re around each other he acts either happy or uncomfortable. He asks if you want him back. He stays in touch with you or people that are close to you. He questions mutual friends about whether you want to get him back or makes comments when you’re around saying that you want him back to see how you act. 

How can I make him want me again?

Focus on yourself. Do things you couldn’t do when you were with each other, like traveling or going to the gym more. If you want your ex-boyfriend back, you need to be your best self. During this process, don’t contact him

In Conclusion

Have you ever had an ex come to you, whether intentionally or not? What happened that made him do that and how long did it take? 

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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