When Your Girlfriend Goes To A Party Without You

by Michelle Devani

One day, your girlfriend said that she is going to a party without taking you. But as she doesn't want to go without your permission, she explained that you won't be going with her there. You want to see this as something simple but number of questions start popping up in you mind:

Why does she want to go alone?

Why don't she take me?

With whom will she going?

Having all those in mind is perfectly normal, since when your girlfriend goes to a party without you, you can't help but feeling disappointed somehow. You'd be worried what if she hit by other guys or what if she flirt with others. You feel uneasy as something bad may happen to her. You worry about who will take care of her if she's drunk or do something stupid at the party.

See also: Signs That Your Girlfriend is Not Happy with You

Now you can stop all your worries because here are the cases below, when your girlfriend goes to a party without you.

1. Give Her The Permission

It' a very good thing that she ask for your permission before going to the party. Letting her go is the best decision, since holding her back is only giving her a gun to shoot on you later. She will be complaining about how you're so possessive and clingy as a boyfriend.

2. Let Her Be Happy

She will be thrilled when she knows you give her her freedom. She might be confused at first, but later on she will be extremely happy. If you are still worried, ask her to pair her phone with you so that you know where she is. But it shows that you don't trust her enough, though.

3. She Needs Time To Enjoy Herself

she needs time to enjoy herself

In a relationship you need some time alone without your significant other's presence. It's how you maintain the quality of the relationship. It's always good to give her time to enjoy herself.

See also: Ways to Love Yourself and be Happy with the World.

4. Don't Confront Her Right Away

If you find any bad aftereffects of the party (cheating, flirting, etc.), you shouldn't be in a rush to confront her. Make sure you have solid proofs. Gather the information and investigate the cas thoroughly.

5. She Wants To Escape From You

Well, if you're the type of needy and clingy to your girlfriend, maybe all she want is to escape from you. This doesn't mean she wants to cheat on you, no. She is just trying to tell you that you are too attached to her to the point it makes her uncomfortable.

6. Spending All The Time Together Is Unhealthy

As you love her so much, you want to spend all the time with her. This is unhealthy for a relationship. At some point, it makes her feel she lost all the time for other things and she get bored easily with you.

See also: Characteristic of a Healthy and Unhealthy Relationship with Boyfriend

7. Try To Trust Her

The main reason why it's hard for you to let her go when your girlfriend goes to a party with you is that you worry that she might cheat, as there will be many guys there. This is where both of you could proof whether you really love each other or not. You give her the trust and she must prove that she is trustworthy enough.

8. She Doesn't Want To Show Her Relationship Status

A woman is searching for the Mr. Right her entire life until she finally walks down the aisle. It's normal if she wants to hide her relationship status. It;s not like she's going to cheat but she's just shopping around. Just like how you like to chat with the hot chicks, she wants to to do it with some hunks too. 

See also: Signs of Incompatibility in Relationship with Your Partner

9. Don't Let It Happen Over And Over Again

Giving her permission to go to a party without you is okay if it's only once or twice. But if it's happen too often, you may rethink about your relationship. Maybe you're just use each other as a cover so that you don't appear single and lonely.

You can start being suspicious if she looks too happy to go to a party without you. There could be something going on there. But before you come to any judgement, secretly follow her to a party when she goes next time.

10. Find Out The Kind Of Party She's Going To

find out the kind of party she's going to

There are many kind of party and figuring out what kind of party she goes may calm you a bit, or even make you more worry. If it's a bachelorette party she'll be going, there will be nothing to worry about. But if she's going to go a wild party, you may reject when she ask.

See also: Ways to Flirt without Coming On Too Strong

11. Maybe She's Just Not That Into You

This is the ugliest truth you must accept: she doesn't really love you. She enjoy herself too much that she doesn't seem to care for you. All she wants is to be happy with her friends, doing what she want to do and putting you behind.

12. Ask For A Return Next Time

You can take your own advantage by letting her go to a party without you. You can ask for a return next time and you can enjoy yourself without her. Then she'll realize how does it feel to stand on your shoes and she might never be going to a party alone again.

In a relationship, you shouldn't have to be too clingy nor possessive to your girlfriend. As long as you think that she is trustworthy, give her plenty of time to have fun with her friends and away from you. It's how you make her miss you when your girlfriend goes to a party without you.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.