South African Dating Culture (No.7 is Sweet)

by Michelle Devani

Love is a universal language. People fall in love and date every other day. Just like how many cultures are in the whole world, they also have their own dating culture and customs. South Africa, known as the Rainbow Nation, has its own unique and distinctive culture of dating. Located in the land of hippies and wildlife, South African men and women known for their exotic and good looking nature. It remained one of the most important cities in the world, with their ports are one of the busiest.

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But for now, let's put aside the business and learn some more about their dating culture. So what's it about dating South African? Here goes some for you about South African Dating Culture!

1. Learn Their Culture And Customs

If you happen to be coming from a culture other than South Africa, get ready to learn about their culture and customs. Upon dating them, you have to adjust yourself to their culture. Learn, understand, and apply them when you are dating. You may find a lot of new things, but isn't it always interesting to learn something new?

2. Play Push And Pull

play push and pull

This one is something women would do the most. They like to play push and pull (hard to get). They do this because they simply didn't want a man that only spend a short night with them, but a man who has a real commitment to date them. It's usually effective to measure how deep the love they feel for the woman. Also, the men would have a good impression of the kind of woman, as they don't easily give in to a man.

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3. Do Not Respond Right Away

People have tendencies to run right away towards anything that we wanted. This is also applied when it comes to dating. Unfortunately, running right away like this is not a good thing. Do not respond right away when a man starts to hit on you. As for men, when a woman doesn't answer your call right there and then, she's playing hard to get on you.

4. Set A Rule When You Are Dating

The rule is something important for almost every South African. They tend to follow the rule obediently. A relationship started from a meeting at a club or a bar is mostly a short fling or one-night stand relationship. It's different from a relationship where a man and a woman meet at a proper place like the workplace, coffee shop, restaurant, etc. A proper place means a more solid base for dating.

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5. Always Dress Properly

For a woman, dress properly is the key in a relationship. This applied to both women and men. Dress properly means dress as simple and as neat as possible. Do not wear heavy makeup every time you go on a date or wearing too fancy clothes. South African men prefer natural beauty, and a woman wearing as little makeup as possible is the most attractive one. Try to look decent and humble in front of them.

6. Proper Place Means The Proper Date

proper place means the proper date

As said before, a good start means a good relationship for South African. The date started at a club is definitely different than the ones started at a restaurant. When you are already in a relationship with South African, be sure to choose restaurants over clubs. Restaurant means both sides want a long-term and serious relationship. But if you prefer to meet at a club, as much as the fun it has, it also means you might only want a short fling, and not looking for a serious one. Choosing a restaurant gained you more respect from a man.

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7. Elegance Is A Must

South African women are mostly well known for their elegance. For South African man, elegance is an important feature every woman should have. They have to carry themselves well, know how to act at a certain place, and at a certain time. South African believe that an elegant woman is a secret for the longevity of marriage.

8. Don't Be Too Picky

When some other women think being selective toward some men is a way to find the right one, this does not apply in South Korea. A woman who is too picky towards a man is a big minus point when the man is looking for a serious relationship. When you go on a date, show your partner that you can adapt well in any situation, by choosing a different restaurant other than that you usually go to, or opted for a walk rather than riding the car.

9. Spontaneous Is Good

Even though the dating culture and customs in South Africa may seem to be strict and tough, they like spontaneous things. A witty, spontaneous woman who is not afraid to reveal their true self is the one that South African man looks for. It can be confusing to act elegant and throwing jokes at the same time. But South African has its own rule. Keeping your manners as you throw a joke to your partner, not to laugh uncontrollably.

10. Do Not Be Shy

do not be shy

At the beginning of a relationship, most women do not sure how to act or behave, as they still understanding and get to know their partner better. A result is often a shy act from the women, which South African men don't fond of. Do not be too shy and hiding your true self, but also do not act too open.

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11. Put Away Your Gadget

The basic rule of dating is you have to be a focus on your partner, as they are the center of your world at the current moment. Both men and women don't want their partners to hold on to their gadgets all the time, especially when they are around. Be sure to turn the silent mode on your cell phone before you go on a date. Give all of your attention only to your partner.

12. Be A Gentleman

Just like any other woman in the world, South African women love to be treated like a princess, and when their dates look after themselves as a prince. Pick her up at her house, date, take her to eat at a restaurant, and send her home. A man can be very attractive to South African women when he acts like a true gentleman. They love a man they could proudly show off to their family and friends.

13. Love Rugby As They Do

Rugby is a very popular sport all across South Africa. Just like football does in Brazil, rugby unites the whole nation. Your South African partner, if they are not a fan of rugby, would be at least can tell you about it. Watching rugby over the weekend as a date would be very lovely.

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14. She Probably Loves Her Puppies More Than You

For a man who looks out to date South African women, one thing you must know beforehand is, she was born as an animal lover. She probably loves her puppies more than she does to you. Just don't raise your eyebrow when she insists to go on a date as three, because her "child" has to be tagged along everywhere she goes. Take the positive side that you would love animals more than before, thanks to your South African girlfriend!

15. Get Close To Them By "Braaing" Together

get close to them by "braaing" together

Speaking about ethnic diversity, South Africa has a lot of them. It also has its own terms in some things. Such as "braai". It's how they called barbecues. South African love barbecuing all the time. It becomes one of their favorite thing to do while hanging out with friends, especially during summer. Also, it could be a good way to get close to someone, right?

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16. They Love To Play Outdoor

Who doesn't know how good the weather is in South Africa? With that amount of sunshine from the tropical climate, no wonder South Africans love to spend their time outdoor. Hike the mountains with their dogs, or walking together along the beach can be alternative ways to spend time with your partner when eating at a fancy restaurant has become too boring.

17. Conservative And Coping With The Tradition

Although South Africa is becoming more and more modern, their people to some extent still hold on to the tradition. They are conservative in some ways and open-minded in some others. They still believe that men are still superior to women, that is why they rely on men and love to be treated like a princess. Despite this idea, South African women are highly educated and well off financially.

South African culture in dating is quite interesting. It was a breakdown of their customs and culture and mirroring directly from it. If you are looking out to date South African, this can be a big help for you! Meanwhile, that's the South African Dating Culture that you now know. In case you ever heard, always spread love in every corner.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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