111 Ways To Flirt To Your Husband Through Text

Last updated on May 14, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Are you looking to spice up your marriage with some saucy texts?

Do you want some inspiration for the type of texts to send?

Perhaps it’s been a while since you’ve been sexting?

Don’t worry, we’ve got your back! Below, you’ll find a list of 101+ messages to flirt with your husband.

It’s a great mix of loving and naughty. Pick your favorite, copy, paste, send. Simple.

But before you do, I would like you to read the next few sentences very carefully.

Flirty texts are a great tool to keep a marriage fresh, but some couples need a lot more than this.

If you’re anxiously looking for ways to spice up a stale marriage, I would urge you to learn more about a man’s ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

This is the nickname given to the part of the male brain responsible for attraction. When you activate it, he experiences tremendous feelings of pride, purpose and self-esteem. These are the crucial emotions he wants to feel in a long-term relationship.

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Once you understand how to turn on this constant flow of happy emotions in your husband’s mind, he’ll be inspired to try his best to do the same for you. This is what happy lasting relationships are made of!

Of course, flirty texts are helpful too, so let’s get into our list of messages you can send your husband.


How To Flirt With Your Husband Through Text

Flirting is fun during the early stages of a relationship, but it’s critical to keep the spark alive as the relationship progresses. Not only does it make your marriage fun, it can help you have a deeper connection in the relationship. Texting is the perfect way to stay in touch with your romantic side and your husband, especially if you’re busy with the family and work all day. 

Flirting via text message is an art. You don’t want to come off as needy or clingy. Instead, you want to learn ways to flirt that will let your man know that you both love and appreciate him. 

If you want to spice things up, some of these ideas are guaranteed to get his blood pumping. There are more ideas that can help you make your husband miss him while he’s away. Whatever effect you’re trying to achieve, these text messages can help you do it. 

1. Send him a GIF.

These cute pictures are guaranteed to make him smile. Keep in mind his sense of humor when deciding on a GIF to send him to get him to grin ear to ear. Sending a GIF is a great way to turn normal messages into flirty text messages. 

2. “Every time you’re around I feel it in my entire body.”

This is a great way to get him thinking about how hot and bothered you are. If the two of you have been married for years, let him know that you still think he’s sexy with this text. 

3. “You’re the most amazing husband.”

Sometimes, we get so caught up in day-to-day life that we forget to compliment our partners. Not only is this important to keep the spark alive, it can help you stay connected with your husband. These flirty text messages are guaranteed to brighten up his day. 

4. Send him a love note.

Let your man know that you love him with a cute text. This is a great idea if you are in a long-distance relationship. Imagine that you’re writing him a love letter to remind him how much he means to you. Then, put it in a text. 

5. “Let’s have a naked dinner.

There’s nothing like spicing up an evening by eating dinner in the nude. Make sure that you pick something you can accidentally drop on yourself and ask your partner to lick off. This is better than a hot date!

6. “I can’t wait to make your favorite dinner.

Let him know that you’re thinking of him and want him to be happy by telling him that you’re going to have his favorite dinner. 

7. “It’s incredibly sexy when you wrap your hands around my waist.

You can write down anything that he does that you love! He’ll appreciate knowing that he makes your life happier.

8. “You’ve been distracting me all day at work…

There’s nothing that will boost his ego quite like this text. 

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9. “Everytime I think about you it drives me crazy.

There’s flirting, and then there is sexy flirting. If you want things to take a sexy turn, you want to let him know that you’re thinking about him in the sexiest way possible. 

10. “Let’s head to bed early tonight.

When you get sucked into married life, it’s easy to get caught up in work and taking care of the kids. That leaves little room for the two of you to be intimate with each other, especially if the two of you are constantly heading to bed late. 

11. Plan a date night.

plan a date night

Send your man a text message and ask him to plan a date night, or tell him that you want to go out to dinner tonight. Spending some extra time together is essential to keeping your marriage healthy

12. Send him a pic in his favorite outfit.

Every husband has a favorite outfit. Pay attention to what he compliments you on. If your man mentions that he loves seeing you in a dress, send your husband a picture of you in a sexy dress. 

You can take this a step further by sending him some naughty pics in his favorite lingerie. This is one of the fun ways that you can get him in the mood. Remember to have sexy body language.

13. Let him know you support him.

Send him some encouraging texts to tell him that you are there for him and support him. If he’s been working hard on a project for work, tell him that he’s doing a great job. Let him know that you are proud of him. 

14. Mention physical touch.

I can’t wait to be in your arms tonight. I’ve been thinking about what I want to do to you all morning. Things that mention physical touch will instantly make his heart skip a beat. This is particularly true if physical touch is his love language. 

15. “I hate how far away you feel. I wish I was in your arms right now.” 

Just because your husband is far away doesn’t mean that you can’t flirt with him. Don’t forget to let him know how much your marriage means to you.

16. “Let’s turn my sexting dream into reality.

Spice things up with this text. If you’re already married, sexting is the perfect way to flirt. You can make it a reality tonight. 

17. “Don’t ever doubt how amazing you are.”

This text message is guaranteed to make him feel special. If you’re going to flirt, you want him to be smiling because you’re his wife. 

18. “I love hearing your voice before going to bed for the night.

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, or you simply don’t see your partner a lot, hearing their voice before going to bed can instantly help you sleep better. Tell him how much it means to you in a text to warm his heart. 

19. “Last night was amazing.

If the two of you had a date night or steamy session in the bedroom, there’s nothing wrong with telling him that. Send him flirty text messages telling him how much you enjoyed last night. 

20. “I wish you were home with me right now!

This is a great way to tell your man that you miss him. Remind your husband that he means the world to you by telling him that you can’t wait to see him again.

21. “I’m so glad I found you!

Flirt with your husband by letting him know how much you love having him in your life. This is more than just sending flirty texts. Instead, this is a great way to stay connected, build intimacy and simultaneously flirt with your husband.

22. “Thank you for all the things you do for me!

Flirty texts don’t always have to be about your sex life. Instead, you can let him know that you appreciate him. Tell him that you love how hard he works. Flirt with your husband by letting him know that you notice all of his hard work, and how much it means to you. 

23. “I can’t wait to show you what I want to wear tonight.

This can be something sexy. Let him know that you’re wearing something sexy to bed tonight, or that you are buying a new outfit. Building anticipation is a great way to slowly keep him in the mood. Married life doesn’t have to be boring!

24. Send him a song.

send him a song

Think of the type of music that he likes to listen to. Send him a song that is romantic, such as one from Boyz 2 Men, or something to get him in the mood, like Freak Me from Silk. It doesn’t matter what message you’re trying to send, there is a song that can do it for you. 

25. Remember his love language.

When you’re thinking of more ideas to send your husband a text, remember their love language. If it’s gift giving, you can mention that you are going to buy them a present. Men that have words of affirmation as a love language will appreciate a text telling them how great they are or what you love about them. Send your husband a flirty message that speaks to him in his love language. 

26. “Would you prefer tight jeans or a skirt?

You can keep the romance alive in your married life by wearing his favorite bottom while the two of you are out to dinner. Sending flirty text messages to your man can simply be about what you’re going to be wearing, and remind him that you’re thinking about him. This simple text will make a huge difference.

27. “Let’s go on a date tonight.

Making sure that you spend quality time together is important. There’s something a bit boring about going to dinner on the same night every week. Instead, spice things up by sending him text messages that make your life a little bit sporadic. 

28. “Are you on your lunch break yet?

This instantly insinuates that you’ll be stopping by his work. Bring him lunch. Pop in to give him a sudden kiss because you miss him. Give him a present. Those little things will keep the romance alive in your relationship. 

29. “Let’s go on an adventure.

Make sure that you have the adventure planned before sending this one! It can be a nasty one or a romantic one. You know what your man is in the mood for!

30. “I love the way that you love me.

It’s sweet, short, and will warm his heart. 

31. “I adore you.

How do you feel when someone adores you? That’s how this will make your husband feel. 

32. “Let me practice talking dirty tonight.

If your husband loves it when you talk dirty, let him know that you’re ready to have some fun. Forget about the responsibilities of marriage and enjoy having fun together in the bedroom. 

33. “Want to see my boobs?

Make sure that you have got a picture of your boobs ready to send him if you send a text message like this one. You don’t want him to be disappointed!

34. “Guess where I want to kiss you?

Remember when you were crazy in love before you got married? How about the way the mere idea of the two of you in bed together would instantly give you butterflies? Send his mind off to an amazing world where the two of you are just like lovebirds in the honeymoon phase with this text message. 

If he responds by asking ‘where?’ start telling him all of the places that you want to kiss from head to toe. It’ll drive him crazy until he is able to be in your arms for the night. 

35. “Want to try this new position?

If you can send him a meme or picture to show him the position, it’s even better. Men are visual creatures. That’s the same reason why your sex life is probably better when you wear lingerie. 

Knowing that you’re trying a new position will do a couple of things. It will let him know that you’re thinking about having sex with him. Flirty texts are a great way to give your husband butterflies when he can’t be with you. These text messages will also give your marriage a little bit of spice. Every healthy marriage needs a little bit of spark to keep things interesting. 

36. Send him a corny joke to make him smile.

send him a corny joke to make him smile

Flirting doesn’t always have to be sexy. Happy flirting is a great way to keep the two of you connected. You can share jokes, memes, or anything else that will make each other smile. It’s perfect if the two of you are trying to build intimacy. 

37. “We should cuddle and watch a movie tonight.

Letting him know what the two of you will be doing tonight will give him an extra bounce in his step. 

38. “I was just checking out your pictures, and you are so fine.

Turn it into a rhyme by adding “and I’m glad you’re mine.” 

39. “You’re as hot as the day I met you, babe.

Guys worry about their sex appeal as they get older just like girls do. Let him know that his looks aren’t fading!

40. “Guess what I’m wearing right now?

Bonus points if you are wearing something sexy and prepared to send him a picture of it. It doesn’t have to be that one outfit that he loves. It can be anything that you think he’ll like. 

You can turn this into happy flirting too. Instead of something sexy, send him a picture of you wearing fuzzy socks or a hot dog outfit. Don’t forget, marriage should be fun too. 

41. “I left you a surprise.

First, leave your husband a little love note. After that, send him a cute text letting him know that you left him a little something. Make sure that you tell him where it’s at or leave him little clues to have a cute scavenger hunt. 

42. “I bought something new to wear for you tonight.

When you’re stuck in a rut in your marriage, you need some new ideas to spice things up. New lingerie is the perfect way to do just that. Make sure that you let your husband know what you have planned to help build anticipation. 

43. “I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you…

Sometimes, it’s nice to know that you’re on someone’s mind. It can instantly make his day brighter to know that you’re thinking about him. To add a sweet touch to this text message, make sure that you mention something you love about him. Tell him that you’re imagining the twink in his eyes when he smiles. Text him that you’re coming up with new ideas for date nights. You know what will make your husband smile better than anyone

44. “I miss your face.

This is a great way to tell someone that you miss seeing them. If you are dying to see your husband again, this flirty text message will remind him that no matter how long it’s been, there is still plenty of love left in the marriage. 

45. “You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me.

There’s no better way to say that you love your husband and appreciate your marriage than this text. It can remind your husband how important the relationship is to you. More than anything, it is an exceptional way to let him know that you truly appreciate all of the blessings that he has brought into your life. 

46. “I found a babysitter for the night.

Tell your husband that your marriage is in for some fun by letting him know that it’ll be just the two of you. Not only does this show him that your relationship is a priority. It can also build anticipation for the fun that is going to happen. You can hint at what you have planned for the evening, but leave it a surprise to make it more fun. Spontaneous things in a marriage are great for bringing the spark back into a relationship that seems dull. 

47. “I’m so glad that I married you.

This is a great way to let him know that you appreciate everything that he does. 

48. “Thank you for making our family such a priority.

When your man goes above and beyond to take care of both you and your family, it’s a wonderful idea to let him know that. 

49. “I love everything that you do for us.

This is another way to simply tell him ‘thank you.’ Everyone likes to know that you see and appreciate what they are doing for the family or marriage. 

50. “Wanna make out with me?

Take a break from the serious parts of the marriage to act like teenagers again! There’s nothing like a make-out session to bring the spark back to your marriage. 

51. “I love you so much, baby.

While you might be looking for original ideas, there’s nothing wrong with the classics. Don’t forget to tell your husband how much you love him.

52. “You’re the peanut butter to my jelly.

If your husband loves a good pun, this one is guaranteed to make him grin. It’s important to keep in mind what makes your husband smile. If he doesn’t care for puns, find another way to bring some fun back into your relationship. 

53. “Want a massage later tonight?

Every guy will eagerly say yes to this one. 

54. “Let’s have a naked Friday!

Naked Friday can be as fun or as sexy as you want it to be. This can mean a sexy game of Naked Twister that is full of laughs. It can also mean some sexy time eating ice cream sundaes off of each other. Keep in mind what makes your husband happy for some great ideas!

55. “I’ve been thinking about what you do with those hands all day.

This is the perfect message to tell your husband how much he’s on your mind. 

56. “I love us!

I love us is so much more than telling your husband that you love him. It tells him that you love your family, your relationship, and everything that the two of you have built together. 

57. “Let me know when you’re on your way home.

This could mean a naked surprise. It could also mean that you’re cooking his favorite meal. Add a little bit of mystery to the evening by not telling your husband which one. 

58. Send him flirty emojis.

send him flirty emojis

Any emoji with heart eyes or heart emojis will work. You can also send him the peach emoji, the tongue emoji, or the eggplant to give your text message a sexy twist. 

59. “No matter how long we’re together, I still love the way that your hand feels in mine.”

Flirt by letting him know how much you enjoy every little thing about him. 

60. “How did I get to be the luckiest woman in the world?

If you look at your husband and know that you’re lucky, make his day by telling him that. 

61. “Want to see these sexy pictures I just took?

When you and your man both like sexting, there’s nothing wrong with having some fun with it. 

62. “Want to try something new tonight?

After you say this, just let his mind wonder. The anticipation of wondering what’s on your mind will drive him crazy. 

63. Be spontaneous with your texts.

Things get boring when you do them every day. Instead, keep the relationship spark by being more spontaneous. 

64. Compliment his personality.

Some men like a good compliment on their family, and others their personality. You know what compliments will make your man feel great. 

65. “You look so good today!

Everyone likes to hear that they look good, especially after they have been married for years. 

66. Write him a poem.

You can make this a sentimental poem or one that is full of hope for the future. You can also write a poem about how amazing your husband is. You can find a writer to do this on Fiverr relatively cheap. Keep in mind that writers do earn fees from this. 

67. Send him the lyrics to a song that you know will match the mood.

If you’re trying to flirt, pick an upbeat song that will make him grin. Make sure that you pick a genre of music that you know he likes to hear. 

68. Show him the great post on Facebook about him.

Let him know that he has a wife that enjoys bragging about him. If your husband doesn’t use social media a lot, send him a screenshot. 

69. Send him a picture of what he loves about you.

Every guy has something that they love about their wife. It might be your hair, face, or even your feet. Send him a sexy picture of something he always compliments you on. 

70. “I’m so proud of you baby.

This might not be flirting like you’re used to, but it can still give him butterflies. Every man likes to hear this from their wife. 

71. “You’re the best husband a woman could ask for.

If you feel like the luckiest wife in the world, let your hubby know that. You can include a few specifics to let him know what you love about him, too. 

72. “Thank you so much for the life that we’ve created together.

It takes two, so don’t forget to let him know that you appreciate the part that he played. 

73. “Hey cutie!

Short, sweet, and guaranteed to make him grin. 

74. “You look so hot today!

When your man puts some extra effort into his appearance, let him know that you noticed. 

75. “Love your new haircut sexy!

You can also use this compliment if he's wearing something new, got new glasses, etc. 

76. “Loved what you did last night!

He’ll know what you’re talking about. 

77. “Guess who’s not wearing panties right now?

There’s nothing wrong with getting a little sexy to make him smirk at work. 

78. “I could definitely use one of your hugs right now.

Because nothing makes you feel better than having his arms wrapped around you. Send your man this when you’ve been having an especially rough day. 

79. “Have you heard? You’re the word!

If he loves Family Guy, he’ll get the reference. 

80. Tell him what you want to do to him.

You can do this with a short sentence. Make it one long paragraph. Another great idea is to start in the morning, and send him one sentence at a time throughout the day. He’ll be dying to leave work and see you. 

81. Send him dad jokes.

send him dad jokes

Anything that makes him laugh also counts as flirting. 

82. Stay positive.

When you’re flirting with someone, you want to make sure that you keep the message upbeat and positive. One of the goals of flirting is to make the grin ear to ear. 

83. “Every text you send me makes me smile.

Your husband always loves hearing that he makes your day. 

84. “What are you doing for lunch today?

If he isn’t busy, stop by to grab lunch together or for a quickie in the office. Both of them will be appreciated. 

85. “You make my thoughts X-rated.

He’ll want you to clarify to keep things going after you send him this message. 

86. Keep it short.

If your husband isn’t a texter, he might not want to read a long paragraph. Instead, make it short and sweet. 

87. Don’t do it every day.

Good morning text messages are great, but they can actually get rather boring and routine when you do it every day. Save the text messages to flirt with him on random occasions. 

88. Be original.

Instead of sending the same message that everyone else does, get creative. Make the flirting text messages personal so he knows that you were really thinking of him. 

89. Make them laugh.

If you can get him to grin ear to ear, that’s great. If you can make him laugh, that’s even better. 

90. Show them that you’re paying attention to them.

When you’re trying to flirt, it’s important that the other person knows that you’ve been paying attention to them. If they just bought a new pair of shoes, make sure to mention them. 

91. “Hey stranger…

This is always cute and flirtatious. 

92. “What would you say if I wanted to see you right now?

This puts things in his court so he can set the tone of texting. 

93. “If I’m making the first move when it comes to texting, I think it’s fair that you make the first move when we head to bed.

Perfect if you’re tired of being the one to initiate sex

94. “I hope you’re having a great day!

A quick ‘thinking of you’ message is a nice way to make his day better. 

95. “Let’s call in sick and spend all day in bed.

It sounds like pure heaven. 

96. “Stop thinking about me so much!

If you want him to flash those pearly whites, this message will do just that. 

97. “I had a sexy dream about you last night.” 

Remain mysterious and don’t tell him the details or get him hot and bothered by letting him know every single detail. You can use this to add some romance to things too. 

98. “I love getting pictures of the sexiest man alive.

Hint, hint. 

99. “How did you get so cute?

Make sure that you ask him for a picture next. 

100. “Seeing a text from you still makes me ecstatic.

Your spouse will make sure to text you more after this one, and it’ll make him feel good. 

101. “I never knew that a piece of me was missing until I met you.

It doesn’t get sweeter than this text message. 

102. “I’m starving right now, but I don’t want food.

When you’re hungry for him and want to send him flirty messages, this is the one to go with. 

103. “You have no idea how much I miss you right now.

Everyone loves to hear when they are missed. 

104. “I can’t get anything done today because I can’t stop thinking about you.

Let him know exactly what those thoughts are. 

105. “You’re so amazing I still can’t believe that you’re real.


106. “Nothing lights up my life like your smile.

Let him know that he’s doing the right things in your relationship. 

107. “I could do nothing with you forever.

i could do nothing with you forever

The perfect way to tell him that all you want is him. 

108. “Someday, we’ll be old and gray, but I’ll still love as I do today.

It rhymes, which some men are going to instantly appreciate. This message is flirty but lets him know that you’re in it for forever. 

109. “You make me smile so much my cheeks hurt.

When he makes you grin ear to ear, tell him how happy he makes you. 

110. “You’re hotter than my morning cup of coffee.

It’s so cute! 

111. You can tell that you’ve been working out lately.

Your husband has been putting in extra work at the gym, so tell him how sexy he is. 


How do I flirt with my husband over text?

Make sure that you give him plenty of compliments. Send him emojis like the eggplant emoji or heart emojis. A winking face is another great idea. Tell him how happy he makes you. Think of what you used to say when you first started dating.

How can I flirt with my husband?

Up the physical affection in the relationship. Give him a cute nickname. Let him know what he does that you love, like when he kisses your forehead. Text him. Tease him. Send him sexy pictures and let him know what you want to do to him.

What are some flirty compliments?

Anything that compliments his appearance. It could be his hair, eyes, nose or anything else that you love about him. Tell him he looks like he could be famous. Compliment his personality or his core values. End it with a winking face.

What is the sweetest thing to say to your husband?

Tell your husband how happy he makes you. Inform him that you’re proud of him, and recognize all of his hard work. If your hubby works hard for your entire family, tell him that you appreciate it. Men like to feel appreciated.

How can I turn my husband on without being obvious?

Touch his sweet spots, like the back of his neck. Gently brush up against him on “accident.” Accidentally send him a sexy picture. Wear low-cut blouses. Bend over to do things. Make sure that you’re actually picking up something though.

In Conclusion

If you are trying to flirt with your husband, these are some great ideas. What would you add to the list?

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