Are you wondering why your ex is texting you six months or more after you broke up?
It can be confusing and discomforting when someone you really cared about reappears out of the blue like that…
Maybe it’s playing on your mind and you need to know why he texted you? At the same time, you don’t want to reply to him.
Well, don’t panic! This guide is here to help! It features 13 common reasons why your ex would decide to message you after such a long time.
Please let me begin by revealing an online tool, which can quickly make it a lot clearer why your ex has decided to re-emerge.
It’s this online communications tracker tool.
Provided you know a few of your ex’s most basic contact details, you can use it to connect with and track his personal devices.
Once you’ve done that, the tool can produce a detailed database of his communications history.
You will find out who he has been calling and texting recently, what smartphone apps he’s using, what online services he’s registered to and more.
This information could make it very clear if he’s broken up with his new beau (for example). It will also reveal any other big changes in his life that could have happened.
You don’t need to worry about him finding out that you’re using this clever tool, because 100% discretion is guaranteed. So, why not put your mind at rest and use it?
Otherwise, your only other options are to ask him why he’s texting or to guess. The list below will help you with the latter.
I think we can all agree that breakups are just the worst. Becoming someone’s ex-girlfriend is far from any woman’s dream.
First, you have to face the painful realization that a guy you thought would always love you, simply doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Then there’s the five dreadful stages of grief that you have to push through or be damned to remain damaged forever. No one wishes for this, however, it's a part of the journey to finding your prince charming.
Sometimes, just when you thought you’d never hear from your ex again, he texts you unexpectedly. If you still love him, you may be tempted to text back and let him back into your life immediately. However, by experience and through other women’s advice, we know that’s not always a wise decision.
Guys don’t always want an ex-girlfriend back. Sometimes, they may have hidden agendas. This is why you need to think before you leap! If you recently just became someone’s ex-girlfriend and you’re trying to figure out why your ex is texting you out of the blues, here are a few possible reasons why.
We may not know exactly why your ex is texting you, but it's probably not because they love you and can’t live without you. A very low percentage of broken-up relationships ever work out the second or third time around. So, if that lousy voice in your mind keeps trying to convince you to ‘give him a chance’, silence that voice and submit yourself to your girlfriends for an emergency intervention immediately!
If a guy truly loves you and wants to be with you, first of all, he won’t wait for an extended period to text or call you. He wouldn’t want the problem to linger because he’d be too afraid to lose you. Don’t beat yourself up for hoping he’d come back because he truly loves you, you’re a healthy human with healthy human feelings, so this is expected. Instead of letting yourself feel stupid, talk to a licensed therapist so you can deal with the parts of you that still want him.
It wouldn’t be a surprise if he’s calling because he misses you. If he was the lazy type, who sat around while you did all the work (physically and emotionally speaking), then he definitely is going to miss you.
It's hard to find people out there who are willing to take anyone else’s excesses, life is hard enough as it is. So, when he goes out there, and no other girl is ready to wait on him or tolerate his laziness, then he’s definitely going to miss you.
Also, it's human nature to miss things. It doesn’t matter whether they’re good or bad, people and things somehow grow on us. So, no matter what, your ex-boyfriend is going to miss something about you, that’s probably why he’s texting.
Most breakups that end abruptly leave this uncomfortable, inconclusive feeling in your mind. If you’re the one who broke up with your ex-boyfriend, then he may be texting because he needs some answers. He may need to know why exactly you felt the need to end things or why whatever he did hurt you so badly. He may need to know these things so he can gain some kind of closure.
On the other hand, he may also be fishing for information about your life. Perhaps, he heard from mutual friends that you’ve moved on and you’re seeing someone else. He may be texting to find out if it's true. Even if he doesn’t ask directly, he’d probably expect that you would mention something about your new beau. If he’s fishing for information, you’ll know.
While you were together, you probably formed a bond with your ex-boyfriend. If you guys were friends to some extent, then you probably shared some inside jokes, bonded on hot gossip, or even shared a plant or pet together. In this case, he may be texting because you’re the only one who would truly understand at that point.
Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.
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You may be wondering why he's calling 6 months after your breakup to tell you a joke or to catch you up on the latest gossip. Of course, it sounds weird, but maybe he thought about calling you earlier and didn’t have the guts to do so. Perhaps, after 6 months he’s finally able to call you up and share those things with you.
If your ex-boyfriend is a manipulative excuse for a man, he may be calling you back to see if there’s a slim chance that you would still tolerate his crap. As mentioned above, it's pretty hard out there in the dating scene, finding someone who’s easy to walk all over or manipulate is practically impossible. With the exposure that social media provides, women aren’t as gullible as they were before, it is harder to play mind games with women these days.
Mental health awareness has also largely contributed to this, most women can now recognize manipulative behavior. So, chances are your ex is finding it hard to get into a romantic relationship and is texting you to see if you’re still available.
This is one of the most common reasons exes call back. It's possible that emotionally and mentally, you guys hardly saw eye to eye but physically, you may still be into each other. Your heart wants one thing, your brain knows better and your body is just not having it.
In this case, he is likely to call you late at night between 9 pm and 3 am. Once you see a text or call from him this late, don’t bother picking up. Some women have confessed that they’ve indulged their exes several times just because they want to keep their body count low. Whether this is healthy or not is debatable, so just know what you are able to do and what you aren’t.
If you’re the extra sensitive type and no-strings-attached sex would break your heart, then don’t respond to that text message.
As heartbreaking as this seems, it's actually quite true. Many guys call their exes if they’re bored or feeling lonely that day. This is likely to happen if you stayed faithful to the no-contact rule and he hasn’t heard from you in a while.
Guys get a bit excited after a breakup, they can’t wait to test out their newly acquired freedom so they go into party mode. Not all ex-boyfriends do this of course, depending on what type of guy he is and what he wants out of life, he may end up getting into a rebound relationship instead.
However, if he’s the party type, he’s likely to party his ass off, get bored of that, and go back to his pre-relationship life. Eventually, that would get boring for him and he’d come crying back to you.
This is likely to happen a bit earlier after your breakup when the hurt and resentment is still fresh. However, some people have more trouble getting out of the denial stage of grief and remain there for a longer time.
If your ex texts you after 6 months of no contact from you, there’s a chance he’s filled with rage that you abandoned him and you’re ignoring him at the same time. Yes, it sounds childish and it is, but sometimes breakups can bring out the toddler in a person.
If you’re in a new relationship that he’s aware of, he may be unable to have a direct conversation with you and decide to send you passive-aggressive text messages instead. Perhaps, he wants you feeling guilty for moving on from him so quickly.
So a month or two after your devastating breakup, your ex sees you on social media looking great, reaching your fitness goals, and not looking shabby at all. At first, he’d probably shrug it off, especially if he has a new girlfriend, but after a while, his natural desire to be wanted will kick in. He will begin to wonder if you really are doing alright without him and he’ll hope that at least a part of you wants him back.
In this case, he would probably text to check if he’s right about this. Again, he may not be direct in his approach, he’s likely to send out some feelers so he doesn’t seem nosy. If he’s not in another relationship yet, he may feel bad that you’re doing so well without him and could want to check if you’re truly over him.
If you and your ex lived together while you were still in a relationship, then you both probably had some shared responsibilities. You may have owned a pet together, kids, or some furniture. Perhaps, your ex-boyfriend texted because there’s an issue with any one of these shared properties.
There’s also a chance that you both share some bills that need paying and he wants you both to agree on payment arrangements. If you have a child or children together, then you may also get this type of text from your ex. He would probably want to discuss child support and weekly visits with the kids. If you had hopes of getting your ex back, this particular type of text message is a bad sign. It means that he has accepted the breakup and it's probably over for real.
If you broke up with your ex because he did something crazy, he's probably feeling guilty. Not all men are heartless, some know when they’re wrong, they accept their faults, and are mature enough to apologize for them.
If your ex cheated, neglected you, or somehow became toxic then he may probably want to apologize. Texts like these would usually contain the phrases; “I’m sorry”, “I messed up” or “You deserve better”. If you receive this type of text from your ex and you feel it's genuine you can respond to let him know he’s forgiven.
Unless your ex fell in love with someone else while you were both still together, he’s not likely to be with someone else in the short space of 6 months. This means that he may be feeling a bit lonely.
Being in a relationship with a person means that you’d both probably spend lots of time with the person. Your ex is used to hearing from you often, you were probably on the phone with him most of the time during your relationship, so not hearing from you for a while is hard for him.
This is quite rare but it's not impossible. Depending on the circumstances of your separation, you both may still have a chance at a happily ever after. Your ex may genuinely be sorry about everything and want you back.
Perhaps, the time he has had away from you made him realize how much he loves you and how much he wants to be with you. If you’re sure that he’s being honest and you feel the same way about him, then you can decide to give him another chance.
There are several reasons your ex feels motivated to text you after this amount of time. He may be bored, lonely, broke, and guilty. Depending on the circumstances of your breakup, you can decide whether to reply to these messages or ignore them.
This may be a sign that he’s confused about his feelings and is still trying to decide if he wants to be with you. It may also mean that he only remembers you when he wants something. For example, if he only texts when he’s lonely or horny at night, this means that he only thinks of you as a tool for entertainment or sex.
Yes, it's normal to miss your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend after 6 months. Depending on how long you’ve been together, 6 months may not be enough for you to be totally over your ex, it's even possible that you still want to get your ex back after this amount of time.
If your ex just started texting you after some months apart there’s a chance he wants you back. He may have realized that you are the one for him during the time you were apart. Texting you after a long period of time isn’t always a very bad sign, sometimes it means that he’s had time to think and grow.
There’s no fixed time limit for guys to regret breaking up; some of them realize it sooner than others. Based on current data, some men get over breakups within 1 to 6 months. If a guy texts you 6 months after you broke up with him, there’s still a chance that he regrets the breakup.
I hope you found this article helpful. Remember, it's easy to make wrong decisions when you’re emotional. So, don’t rush to text your ex back if he reaches out, find out what he wants first. Please let us know what you think and be sure to share the article with friends.
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