How To Get An Aquarius Guy’s Attention (33 Sneaky Ways)

Last updated on May 13, 2024 by Michelle Devani

The typical Aquarius man is what you would call one of a kind, so you will need a special set of qualities

In fact, he’s such a mystery that it is easy to lose your way while trying to get an Aquarius man to show interest in you. Thanks to their unique personality and cute quirks, it is no surprise that you are interested in a relationship with an Aquarius male. 

Unfortunately, it is not as easy to snag yourself an Aquarius man because this star sign does not fall in love that easily. Nevertheless, once he is hooked that could be one of the best relationships you have ever been in. 

With this in mind, I am going to shed some light on how to get an Aquarius guy’s attention. Sit tight and after this, go and get your man!


33 Ways On How To Get An Aquarius Guy’s Attention 

1. Try friendship first

try friendship first

Do you remember that rhyme, ‘First comes love, then comes marriage...?’ Well, its originator was probably referring to the Aquarius zodiac sign. 

To get an Aquarius man, the first step is to befriend him. He does not move swiftly from considering you a prisoner to the girl of his dreams overnight. Altogether, Aquarius men like to take their time when it comes to love, so if you want this guy’s attention, the best way is to take it slow and easy.

Ensure that he feels comfortable around you, show him you have a lovely personality and then he will have no issue becoming his best girl

2. Do not be shallow

If you want to make an Aquarius man pay attention to you, then you need to portray some level of intellectual prowess. You cannot expect your relationship with an Aquarius man to stay strong solely based on your ‘banging body’, at some point you will have to come up for air. Seeing as most Aquarius men are intellectual themselves, the best way to impress them is to show them you are smart too.

If you can hold a stimulating conversation then you are most likely to make an Aquarius man pay close attention to you. You do not have to know everything to get an Aquarius man, merely showing curiosity for new things will get you where you need to be. In a nutshell, offer him more than sex and meaningless banter.

3. Do not crowd him with attention

It sounds like some sort of conundrum, but that is the way it has to be if you want to get an Aquarius guy to pay attention to you. Do not constantly encroach on his space and hang on to his every word like it is gold. To make an Aquarius man fall for you ensure that you remain his friend without taking away his freedom. 

That simply means that you cannot constantly show up at his place unannounced, or quiz him when he goes out with other friends. Understand that he will have other relationships outside yours, but you are most likely his only romantic partner. If you keep trying to be overbearing in the relationship, an Aquarius guy will eventually get fed up and your best days together will be behind you.

4. Do not display jealousy

Aquarius men are not much for chasing women, but if you manage to catch their attention then you need to play it cool. Sure, you may not necessarily be the jealous type, but once you get involved with Aquarius men, their personality draws you to them. 

One of the best ways to get this guy's attention is to ensure you don't come on too strong. Till you get to the point where he clearly wants to shower you with attention, do not act needy, jealous, or clingy. 

For the most part, Aquarius men are more comfortable with relationships where the other person is independent. So, if you chase them because you don't want anyone else to have them, it will eventually come back to bite you in the behind. 

5. Stand on your own two feet

Think of this as an extension of the last point, it is in your best interests to exude a sense of independence if you want to get an Aquarius guy's attention. As mentioned earlier, he is not drawn to clinginess and for the most part, he can often come off as detached and aloof. 

That does not mean he does not care, but Aquarius as a zodiac sign in general is characterized by people who like their own space. Besides that, Aquarius men take their time to fall in love, they are picky and have high standards when picking a partner. 

Altogether, he wants a woman who can be her own person and chase her own goals while still loving him. So, if you tend to get lost in your lover's life, then you may not be able to land an Aquarius man. 

6. Keep him on his toes

The typical Aquarius man tends to get bored quite easily, so if you cannot come up with surprises, now and then, you may not get that guy's attention. That's why you'll notice that Aquarius men are quite enthralled with their lovers at the start of relationships.

However, once they have seen and done it all, they look for a new challenge or thrill. So, it does not just end when you attract an Aquarius man, you need to be creative enough to hold the guy's attention. 

It sounds like a hassle, but once you love someone all of this comes easy. Besides popping a surprise into the mix now and then, do not reveal all your cards at the beginning of the relationship, keep him guessing and surprise him pleasantly with a new layer of yourself.

7. Be understanding

All relationships need the understanding to keep moving forward, but let me tell you this, Aquarius men are sort of an enigma, and they are equally unpredictable. So, there are times where he may act in a way that is uncharacteristic of him. 

For instance, he may be hot for you one second, then cold and aloof the next. It is best for you to approach him from a place of understanding. It does not mean he does not care about you, he probably had issues he's mulling over. 

Note that Aquarius men are not an emotional bunch, they are not expressive either. So, he is prone to keeping his issues to himself, till he can fix them. The best way to support him is to let him know you understand and accept him. 

8. Let your spontaneous side shine through 

let your spontaneous side shine through

Remember, Aquarius men get bored quite easily, so, to attract people under this star sign, it is a good idea to show him your spontaneous side. 

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For the most part, he wants a woman he can do fun things with and go on mini adventures together. It is even better when you do not wait for him to drag you along, suggest new and exciting things you could do as a couple. 

Whether you are at the friendship stage of your relationship or you're still at the point of trying to attract an Aquarius, you have to let your spontaneous flag fly. You don't have to skydive before he knows you're making an effort, simply look for things out of your comfort zone that will keep his adventurous side satisfied. 

9. Do not put down his ideas

Aquarius men tend to be dreamers and just as dreamers do, they have some out-of-the-go, ideas. To make an Aquarius man pay attention to you, it is best that you do not put down his ideas. 

Best believe that he will dismiss you as a close-minded person before you can make any headway with him. Agreeably, some of the things he comes up with may read as humorous or out of this world. 

Nevertheless, he must have felt that he could trust you before letting you in on his thoughts. 

The way you respond when he finally opens up will determine whether you will have a romantic relationship or not. 

10. Do not betray his trust

This goes without saying in all relationships, but let me tell you why it is a bit different with Aquarius men, especially one whose attention you want. As mentioned earlier, they are not the most forthcoming people out there. Furthermore, they value their freedom and as such, will let you have your own life quite comfortably. 

First, do not share anything they told you in secret with anyone. It takes a lot for them to open up to another person, so if they find out that you betrayed them, it cuts deeper. Besides that, do not take the liberty they accommodate for granted because if they find out, there is hardly a second chance. 

11. Accommodate his friendliness

As much as Aquarius men like their freedom, people can't help but be drawn to them. It is obviously the same way you were drawn to him in the first place, so don't get any ideas about keeping him all to yourself when you have his attention. A typical Aquarius is friendly and easy to hang around with, so it would be futile to try to change him or stop other people from enjoying his company. 

Be secure in the fact that once you have his attention it is all yours. It may not always seem that way, considering the fact that he's often out with friends or in his own head, but it is the truth. 

12. Do not be judgemental

If you want to be the bane of an Aquarius man's existence, simply show him that you are judgemental. Typically, Aquarius men and judgemental people are like night and day. They are all about being open-minded and accepting people for who they are. So, if you seem to have an opinion about everyone and everything, that is already grounds for him to be repelled by you.

If you can't help your judgemental stance, then maybe you should look for someone who doesn't mind, we are who we are. Because Aquarius men simply won't give you the time of day if they sense you are judgemental. 

Also, note that being opinionated is different from being judgemental, you should definitely stand for something and have independent thoughts. 

13. Communicate, don't argue

It is natural to want to defend yourself by all means possible, or flare up when your feelings have been hurt. The thing is, that is not how an Aquarius man processes conflict. If you want to hold his attention, then you have to learn to choose communication over arguments. When you have disagreements, best believe that he is ready to sit down and have a mature conversation till you find a solution or reach an agreement. 

If you go in there, guns blazing and hair flying in the wind, you will end up alienating him. Even more, you won't get to the bottom of anything. 

14. Put your best foot forward

Even while you are in the friendship stage, make sure you put your best foot forward. Aquarius men are awesome to be around and there is no doubt you will enjoy them once they start paying attention to you. 

The thing is, you should not take this for granted and slack on your part. Try as much as possible to match his energy. Remember that Aquarius men have high standards, also, they tend to lose interest quite easily. 

So, you simply cannot expect him to rain down attention on you when you are lackadaisical on your part. Some other Zodiacs may tolerate this, but an Aquarius will be out of there before you can blink. 

15. Know what you want from him

It is all fun and games till you finally get his attention and do not know what to do with it. Before an Aquarius man decides to let you in, it means that he has done his homework, you are not a random catch. He purposefully falls in love and practically vets his intention to ensure that she is the type of woman he wants in his life. 

With that in mind, you need to be sure about him as well. Don’t just get carried away with the charm and suddenly swoop down for a kill. Once he realizes that you do not really know what you want from him, he will take back that attention faster than he offered it. 

16. Be open to self-improvement

be open to self-improvement

Life is all about growth and improvement, no one is more aware of that than an Aquarius. They are considered to be one of the most open-minded zodiacs and as such, they do not shy away from self-development. 

This is another area where Aquarius men want their women to mirror them, so if you truly want to attract the guy, let him see that you are constantly looking for ways to be a better version of yourself. 

Also, do not pretend because that is worse than not being open to self-improvement. Once an Aquarius senses that you are faking for their benefit, they will pay little to no attention to you. 

17. Be kind

Naturally, the Aquarius male is a kind and lovable person. No doubt, these are some of the reasons you are so drawn to him in the first place. With this in mind, you are not going to get anywhere with him if your attitude is the opposite. This is another night and day situation as far as dating an Aquarius man goes.

Sure, you will get his attention if you have an unsavory attitude, but it will not be the kind that you want. So, genuinely try to be a nice person whether he is there or not, it will not hurt either way.

18. Spark his curiosity

A typical Aquarius man is attracted to people that are unconventional and quirky. So, you can appeal to his eccentric side by simply letting your freak flag fly. This will not only make him more into you, but he will also be curious to see more. When he cannot particularly pinpoint what makes you tick, he will want to spend more time with you. 

Again, do not pretend, just dig deep, everyone is weird in their own way and you Aquarius man will find that side of you quite amazing. Do not be scared of letting your guard down when you are with him, because that is what will ultimately bring you two together.

19. Do not get too emotional

As awesome as an Aquarius is, he is not one to express his emotions or get mushy. Of course, he will look for ways to show you that he cares, nevertheless, he is not prone to emotional outbursts. So, things like PDA and crying with you while you watch Titanic are off the table, do not get offended by that. 

If you want to engage with him, do it at his level. Try to be logical and calm about it even when you feel like screaming. This way, he can actually hear or feel what it is that you are trying to pass across. If you use the emotional route, then it is most likely that he simply will not understand you.

20. Do not try to force commitment on him

When an Aquarius man is ready to date, he will make the move, till then he won’t budge. You can use every antic in the book, but till he is ready to give you that much attention, there is nothing you can do to force it. Bringing up the word commitment in conversations will only make him feel like you are trying to cage him.

What did I say an Aquarius guy loves? His freedom. If you try to rob him of that, there is no way he will give you the attention you want. Even when he finally starts showering you with attention, do not crowd him or give him the sense that he has no way out. Just go with the flow and rest assured that he loves you.

21. Do not offer unsolicited advice

Some people do not mind when you tell them what to do out of the blues, but an Aquarius man is different. He has a special kind of thought process, basically, it is part dream and part logic. 

So, it is safe to say that he puts a whole lot of thought into every decision he shares with you and eventually lands on. If you want to give him constructive criticism, look for ways to make it look like he asked for it, or wait for him to ask for it. 

If you keep telling him what to do or what you think without him asking you to, then you are going to push him away and make him guard his thoughts more carefully. 

22. Be patient

Let me start by saying that an Aquarius guy is not for everyone, sure, he could probably attract anyone, but not many have the patience to wait for him to notice them. When it comes to romance, an Aquarius does not jump right in. Besides choosing his partner with precise scrutiny, he equally has a carefree approach when it comes to his heart.

So, even when an Aquarius man finally gives in and starts paying attention to you, he still wants his space. It is almost like a non-relationship, right? Altogether, you need to be patient enough to go through all this because he is just that amazing.

23. Do not be high maintenance

You would think that no one likes a high-maintenance person, but you would be shocked to know that there are people who thrive in the midst of all the drama. Needless to say, an Aquarius guy is not one of them. He runs from drama and values his peace above all else. So, if you are a high-maintenance person, it is going to push him in the opposite direction. 

He is, by nature, a kind and giving person, in fact, most humanitarians are probably Aquarius. Nevertheless, he will not go all out for you if he realizes that you are trying to take up his time on purpose.

24. Do not try to take advantage of him

As I just mentioned, Aquarius guys are selfless and are ready to go all out, even if it's for practical strangers. Nevertheless, if they realize that you are taking advantage of his kind nature, then he will pull away instantly. I am not talking about a gradual pullback, he will instantly switch on you, so you can say goodbye to all the attention that you are seeking. 

It gets even worse if you straight up start demanding things from him just because you know he will come running. That attitude is enough for him to completely write you off, so try the opposite. 

25. Be dependable

be dependable

If you want to have a long and fruitful relationship with an Aquarius man, then you need to prove to him that you are dependable. You see, Aquarius men make it a point of duty to surround themselves with dependable people. So, why should you be any different? 

If you want to date him, then you will be the closest person to him, which means you should strive to be as dependent as can be. Sure, you cannot control everything, but try to your best ability to keep your word. Do not cancel plans out of the blues or break promises one too many times. He is watching closely, and eventually, he will push you away if you are undependable.

26. Let him help you

The typically Aquarius male loves to be loved and enjoys feeling useful. So, if he cares about you he is ready to go the extra mile to help you. I am not asking you to play the damsel in distress at every turn, just let him help you when things get overwhelming. 

Once in a while, ask for his advice and help, it will make him feel more connected to you. Again, do not become dependent on him, simply become his partner and you guys will make a great team.

27. Do not let him get lonely

Remember when I said that Aquarius men are somewhat of an enigma? Well, as much as they love their own space, they do not like to get lonely. It can get annoying that he does not want to spend time with you as much as you want to with him. 

Nevertheless, he is not doing this to spite you, so do not stay away from him intentionally to prove a point. If you stay away from him for too long, then chances are that he will start to believe that you will never be there for him. 

28. Learn his love language

I said it before and I will say it again, Aquarius men are not the most expressive. If you are an over-the-top romantic, you may most likely not get what you want from an Aquarius man. But that does not mean that your relationship cannot work out. If you can simply learn to understand his love languages, then you will see the affection when others can’t. 

29. Be a huge part of his support system

Aquarius men love to dream, despite how logical they are. Yes, they have big dreams for the future and are silently searching for someone to support them. As long as you take time to support him in his endeavors, there is no way he won’t notice you. Sure, some of those ideas may be way out there, but his sharp intellect will get him back on the right track.

30. Do not ignore him

This may work for some people, but there is no way you can look appealing to an Aquarius man if you ignore him. Sure, he is not one to shower unsolicited attention on another person, but he loves attention himself. There is no way you can expect your relationship to move forward if you try to use that reverse psychology on him. Just ensure that everything is balanced.

31. Do not jump into bed with him immediately

I am not going to tell you that sleeping with him early on in the relationship will chase him away prematurely. The thing is, with a guy like this, you have to look for ways to keep him around long enough to realize that he cannot be without you. In that case, by delaying sex, he will learn more about you before getting bored. By the time you give up the cookie, he will be hooked.

32. Set boundaries

If you let him, an Aquarius guy will overstep your boundaries and then some. For somebody who does not enjoy opening up to others, he sure tends to dig deep into other people’s lives. Don’t be scared of firmly letting him know that he is out of line when it happens, it will make him respect you more. After all, he is a great advocate of self-development.

33. Be confident about how amazing you are

be confident about how amazing you are

Lastly, you cannot truly make any man pay attention to you if he senses that you are insecure. Exuding confidence is a great way to make yourself look more attractive to your Aquarius coach. So, ensure that he knows that you know how great you are.


How do you know if an Aquarius man is attracted to you?

With the Aquarius male, romance usually starts in the friend zone, so pay close attention to how your friendship unfolds. You will know you have this guy’s attention when he amps up the flirtation and starts slowly hinting at a love affair. To crown it all up, he will be a lot sweeter when you are in private, seeing as Aquarius men are quite private, especially in relationships. 

How can I impress an Aquarius boy?

The first step to getting the attention of an Aquarius male is to become their friend. After that, let your personality and intelligence shine through. Honesty is also a big winner if the aim is to attract an Aquarius man. Also, it is important not to crowd him while you are in a relationship with them.

How does an Aquarius man act when they have a crush?

An Aquarius guy will start spending more time with you once you have caught his attention. Basically, the more they offer you their time, the more they care about you. It is not just about the time you offer, he also expresses his interest by opening up to you a lot more. He will equally try to put forward his best qualities to impress you.

How do you know if an Aquarius man is no longer interested?

First, Aquarius men will not give you any access to their personal life if they do not want a relationship with you. Even more, he will not give you any attention, flirtatious or otherwise. Your conversations will be bland and void of any effort. Altogether, if an Aquarius does not show you attention, you are simply not the girl of his dreams.

Where do Aquarius men like to be touched?

Pay particular interest to his calves and ankles, apparently, those are erogenous zones for Aquarius men. You can nibble on them or trail light kisses in that area. But do not stop there, explore his body and come up with new ideas on how to please him. For the most part, each individual knows where they like to be touched, so spice up your relationship by discovering that.

In Conclusion

If you want to start a relationship with an Aquarius guy then you first of all have to get his attention. At this point, that should be quite evident. The main key is to let your lovely personality come through and if it is right, then your Aquarius man will give you all the attention that you need. 

Altogether, I hope the few points above have given you some insight into how to become the girl of his dreams. I would love to hear from you about how you landed your Aquarius guy, also feel free to share this article so your soul sisters out there can land their very own Aquarius man.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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